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Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Life

What? Is that even possible?!

Let me share a true story that completely changed my perspective—and ultimately, the way I help my clients transform their relationships.

A while ago, I attended a retreat that turned out to be life-changing. The focus was on business, specifically marketing, but what I learned went way beyond that. It was something I’ve used with my couples ever since to help them get unstuck and rebuild their relationships into what they’ve always wanted.

I was skeptical going in. I had already taken multiple courses on marketing and visibility, and they hadn’t helped much. Deep down, I was doubting myself—almost convinced I wasn’t going to succeed as an online businesswoman.

But I decided to give it another shot.

This retreat was different. Instead of just strategies and tactics, we spent most of our time identifying the thoughts that were holding us back—and learning how to change them.

That’s when I saw it clearly: The way we THINK about something directly impacts how we approach it, how we feel about it, and ultimately, the results we get.

Your Relationship and Your Thoughts

Now, let’s apply this to your marriage.

When you think about your relationship, what thoughts come up? Do you find yourself thinking:

“We’re disconnected.”
“We don’t talk about important things.”
“We argue too much.”
“This isn’t how I wanted my marriage to be.”
“I guess this is just the way it’s going to be.”

Do any of these sound familiar? More importantly, how do you FEEL when you think these thoughts?

Limiting Beliefs: The Thoughts That Keep Us Stuck

At the retreat, we were challenged to write down our thoughts about marketing. Some of them were labeled limiting beliefs—thoughts we tell ourselves over and over that keep us stuck, unable to imagine change.

Here were some of mine:

“I’m bad at marketing.”
“I want to help more people, but no one knows my work, so I can’t.”
“I’m not good at business.”
“I’ll never figure this out.”

Reading these now, it’s obvious how stuck I was. When those thoughts were running through my mind, I wasn’t taking action. It felt like reality—like I was doomed to stay right where I was.

But then… I realized I had the power to change those thoughts.

The Power of YET

One small shift changed everything for me.

I started adding the word YET to my limiting beliefs.

“I’m not good at marketing… yet.”
“I haven’t figured this out… yet.”

That tiny change made a huge difference. Instead of feeling stuck, I felt hopeful and empowered. My thoughts weren’t a permanent reality—they were just where I was in that moment. And I could change them.

How This Works in Your Relationship

You can use this same strategy to shift the way you think about your marriage.

If your thoughts are keeping you stuck, what happens when you add yet?

Instead of “We never go out and have fun like we used to,” try: “We haven’t been prioritizing fun yet—but I’m going to change that.”
Instead of “We don’t ever talk about important topics,” try: “We haven’t been having deep conversations yet—but I can start that.”

See how that small shift changes everything? Suddenly, your relationship isn’t stuck. It’s in progress. And you have the power to take the next step.

Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

This idea may not be new to you—but it’s so powerful, it’s worth repeating. The way we think shapes our lives, our relationships, and our happiness.

When we reflect on our thoughts, own them, and shift the ones that hold us back, we open the door to real change.

That’s what I help people do every day—transform their marriages and create the love and connection they truly want. If you’d like to explore working with me, reach out!

📩 Email: carol@drcaroljhenry.com
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With love,

Carol

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